What Is a Minimony Compared to a Micro wedding?
How the Traditional Marriage Format Is Evolving
The format of weddings used to be one and done, but the order of events has changed as weddings have evolved into fully personalized experiences. Marriage in the traditional sense is changing- gone are the days when the success of a wedding was directly correlated to its price tag with a wedding that truly didn’t fit your vision as a couple.
A smaller wedding and fewer expectations allow you to be more flexible and creative. You’re free to change things up—for example, you won’t feel pressure to include wedding traditions that have never really resonated with you. Also, a teeny, tiny wedding will be easier to coordinate, no matter where you are or what you’re doing. You’ll be able to reserve a private space at that top-notch restaurant you’ve always wanted to try, invite your chosen guest list into your tented backyard, or request the presence of your immediate family and besties at a location sentimental to you.
Though a massive guest list would make for a full and festive party, another potential pitfall is you wouldn’t be able to catch up with everyone there. By choosing a minimony first, you’ll share a memory with your immediate loved ones, while eventually savoring your sequel wedding later. With a micro wedding or minimony, you’ll be able to prioritize spending quality time with each and every loved one at your event. This is one case in which less is totally more. Whether or not you consider yourself a shy person, your dream wedding might be saying to have 5-10 people at your nikkah at a mosque Or walking around the Agni in a temple or walking down the aisle- followed by cake and dinner at your favorite restaurant—with no pressure, just love. And you should absolutely do it.
Finally, keep in mind: Having an intimate or large, black-tie or no-tie wedding is ultimately up to you. Some couples may get worried about trimming their guest list to the microwedding level but it is best that they are honest and relay that they are having an incredibly intimate wedding with their closest family members and friends.
What Is a Minimony?
What exactly is a minimony? It’s exactly that: a minimony is a mini ceremony held with your loved ones, or simply a moment of commitment shared between yourselves. Given the uncertainty of the coronavirus pandemic, couples have been opting to move forward with weddings or mini ceremonies, now defined as minimonies, for a range of reasons.
What makes this event different is its size and its meaning. A minimony is considered a commitment ceremony between you and your partner, and it can include up to 10 people—as long as you adhere to social distancing measures. The health of you and your loved ones should be priority throughout the planning and postponement process. Many couples who’ve had to postpone their ceremonies (millions through summer 2020, in fact) are encouraged to consider a minimony to honor their original wedding date or to move forward with this option for legal purposes.
Your minimony would include an experience: handwritten vows, a first dance on your balcony, as well as snapshots of details culled from your larger wedding. This includes tapping your pastry chef to bake a mini wedding cake, ordering small arrangements from your florist, or requesting your photographer capture this special occasion from afar.
Whatever it is that you do, just know there is no wring or right. If it resonates with you as a couple then it is right for you.
What Is a Microwedding?
A microwedding, like its name suggests, will typically include a guest list of up to 50 guests—often immediate family and super-close friends only. Though tiny in guest count, a microwedding differs from a minimony. Think of a microwedding as a cross between an elopement and a big, traditional wedding—and it might just be the perfect compromise to suit your style.
"More is not always necessarily more," says renowned event planner Stefanie Cove. “A microwedding is for the couple who wants to really focus and spend the majority of their budget on the smaller details, whereas it might be difficult to replicate the same experience for, say, 200 guests.”
While a microwedding can save you money, many couples are turning it into a macro experience. According to The Knot 2019 Real Weddings Study, the average overall guest count was also down, while the average cost per guest went up. “Couples can certainly save money by going the route of microweddings, though many decide to actually spend their full budget. Only on less people,” Cove explains. “Some couples will even take their budget and host the hotel rooms for their guests, along with transportation and other items that may not normally be affordable for a larger-size wedding.”
Microweddings, however, are not the type of occasion where couples should look to cut corners from the beginning. Many couples who throw microweddings will splurge on decor, white-glove service and a savory sit-down dinner simply, with intimacy in mind. With a guest list of 35 of your nearest and dearest, a tropical destination weekend wedding, a designer wedding dress or a decadent brunch at a five-star restaurant becomes much more feasible.
What Is an Elopement?
The definition of an elopement has evolved in the last five years especially as couples are increasingly personalizing every aspect of their lives. Traditionally, elopements were considered spur-of-the-moment and unplanned events involving an element of secrecy. Today, there is still an air of sweeping romance involved in elopements, but couples are taking the extra steps to personalize it too.
What Is a Sequel Wedding?
After your minimony, continue prepping for your sequel wedding, or the original wedding that you had planned prior to the pandemic. This term was coined in 2019 largely for couples deciding to have two distinct weddings for cultural, religious and other reasons. However, the sequel wedding has evolved, taking on new meaning as the coronavirus pandemic has prompted many to-be-weds to reconsider the order of their life events. There is no better time than now to create your own rules.
Having a minimony allows you to solidify your union or to honor your first proposed date. Further down the line, throwing a sequel wedding will bring your wedding vision to life, and be confident in this: all couples are welcome to have both. If anything, it’s encouraged.
In short, if you want to have a minimony first followed by a sequel wedding and your dream party with your loved ones, then so be it. Now is the time to lean into building the foundation for your marriage, while a celebration with your loved ones will most certainly follow. And if a microwedding or an elopement sounds like it’s a reflection of you as a couple, then it’s a great way to remember your wedding day in a way that was yours. Truly.